Baby Momma Segment

Today I was going to post a blog on dating "Heavy's" or "Bosses" cause I was thinking about this one dude and his girl but we gone wait on that...so stay tuned cuz "Boss Me Up?" blog is soon to come. But this blog today is about the epidemic that is hitting teenagers hard and that is
The Baby Momma Disease...

This disease is hitting teenage girls hard and its sad to say. On every other facebook page there is a girl who's pregnant and flaunting it around. Now this post is not to bash any teenage mother because things happen and there are some good ones out there. This is simply my thoughts on the teenage mother epidemic that I see now. The statuses and pictures that we see now from teenage mothers aren't talking about how they're going to take care of their soon to be child, but instead how they baby is their "marker" to always remain their baby's daddy "foreva ladi".

This idea is beyond ridiculous to me. A baby does not keep a man around, more than likely its going to send him running out of the door. The baby momma/baby daddy relationships that I see on facebook goes one or two ways. 1) The baby momma is proclaiming on ALL her fb statuses how she's the "forever lady". She talks about how she loves her "family" (the baby & the bd) and how her bd is always going to return to his "family" OR  2) The baby momma is bashing the baby daddy talking bout how he doesn't do shit for the baby. She claims that she does everything for her baby and could do without the babydaddy. 

These two situations sometimes goes hand and hand. One week you'll see situation 1 playing out in a girl's life and then the next week it would be situation 2. Shit both situations could happen within the same week. This is crazy! First off, you being his girl first & his babymomma second, there should be no other girl in his life. You should be the ONLY one. Your facebook statuses should not have to proclaim how you're number 1 and the "foreva ladi" and all the other chicks are just "sideline hoes". No hunny! He may say their just sideline hoe's to him and just somebody that he fucks with, but you being a young lady shouldn't allow this. You should set the standards that requires you to be the ONLY woman...and if that standard isn't met then you should walk out of his life. This doesn't mean take your baby out of his life because the baby also belongs to him too. If he wants to fuck around with other girls, you let him do that and you move around cause he obviously don't appreciate you. 

Now second off, if your baby daddy is taking care of his baby or even giving an attempt to take care of the baby (9 times out of 10 he doesn't have a job...so what much could he do other than attempt) then you shouldn't give him such a hard time with his baby. Your baby is always going to need a father figure in his/her life, so why not allow the real father to do it, if he's willing. I know there's circumstances when the father is a low down deadbeat ass father who does exactly nothing for the baby. If thats your situation then yes you have the right to take your baby out of his life. He's not doing anything to help your baby's life or yours, so why bother with the scumbag. However, if this is your story and you're still fucking with him, you're still wanting to be the "forever ladi" then what makes you think he's going to change. Instead of him taking care of you and your baby, you're taking care of him, yall baby, and his sideline chick (cuz the money that he's getting from you, he taking her out with...whether it be to McDonalds or whateva, its still your money).

This post may be a little bit bias and excuse me if it is. I don't know everyone's story, and because Im not a baby momma, I don't know exactly what baby mommas go through. However, I do know that being a baby momma to a young boy who has nothing but the clothes on his back and living in his momma house is not cute. Personally, being a teenage mother in any situation isn't cute to me. I support both of my teenage baby mommas because every teen mother needs support. But I will always wish that both of them could have waited. Although most girls try to make teenage motherhood look peachy and easy, from looking at my sister who was a teen mom, my bestfriend/ 1st baby momma, and my soon to be baby momma its not. You can also see this from just looking at the stats of the teen moms on facebook. You cant possibly think their life is peachy if you read in between the lines. Just as I stated, they go through situation 1 & 2 on a weekly basis. That just cant be life. You can not look at that and tell me that their life seems like roses. I think its best to live out your teenage years (14-20) and your early 20's (21-24) without a baby. I know these years for me are the time to party and do as I please. Its the time to better yourself by going to school or getting a job. This is the time to be selfish and do for you. Why make it hard for you by bringing a child into the world & possibly becoming a single parent? 

Word of Advice: Use Protection Or Get On Birth Control If You Are Being Sexually Active