Baby Momma Segment

Today I was going to post a blog on dating "Heavy's" or "Bosses" cause I was thinking about this one dude and his girl but we gone wait on that...so stay tuned cuz "Boss Me Up?" blog is soon to come. But this blog today is about the epidemic that is hitting teenagers hard and that is
The Baby Momma Disease...

This disease is hitting teenage girls hard and its sad to say. On every other facebook page there is a girl who's pregnant and flaunting it around. Now this post is not to bash any teenage mother because things happen and there are some good ones out there. This is simply my thoughts on the teenage mother epidemic that I see now. The statuses and pictures that we see now from teenage mothers aren't talking about how they're going to take care of their soon to be child, but instead how they baby is their "marker" to always remain their baby's daddy "foreva ladi".

This idea is beyond ridiculous to me. A baby does not keep a man around, more than likely its going to send him running out of the door. The baby momma/baby daddy relationships that I see on facebook goes one or two ways. 1) The baby momma is proclaiming on ALL her fb statuses how she's the "forever lady". She talks about how she loves her "family" (the baby & the bd) and how her bd is always going to return to his "family" OR  2) The baby momma is bashing the baby daddy talking bout how he doesn't do shit for the baby. She claims that she does everything for her baby and could do without the babydaddy. 

These two situations sometimes goes hand and hand. One week you'll see situation 1 playing out in a girl's life and then the next week it would be situation 2. Shit both situations could happen within the same week. This is crazy! First off, you being his girl first & his babymomma second, there should be no other girl in his life. You should be the ONLY one. Your facebook statuses should not have to proclaim how you're number 1 and the "foreva ladi" and all the other chicks are just "sideline hoes". No hunny! He may say their just sideline hoe's to him and just somebody that he fucks with, but you being a young lady shouldn't allow this. You should set the standards that requires you to be the ONLY woman...and if that standard isn't met then you should walk out of his life. This doesn't mean take your baby out of his life because the baby also belongs to him too. If he wants to fuck around with other girls, you let him do that and you move around cause he obviously don't appreciate you. 

Now second off, if your baby daddy is taking care of his baby or even giving an attempt to take care of the baby (9 times out of 10 he doesn't have a job...so what much could he do other than attempt) then you shouldn't give him such a hard time with his baby. Your baby is always going to need a father figure in his/her life, so why not allow the real father to do it, if he's willing. I know there's circumstances when the father is a low down deadbeat ass father who does exactly nothing for the baby. If thats your situation then yes you have the right to take your baby out of his life. He's not doing anything to help your baby's life or yours, so why bother with the scumbag. However, if this is your story and you're still fucking with him, you're still wanting to be the "forever ladi" then what makes you think he's going to change. Instead of him taking care of you and your baby, you're taking care of him, yall baby, and his sideline chick (cuz the money that he's getting from you, he taking her out with...whether it be to McDonalds or whateva, its still your money).

This post may be a little bit bias and excuse me if it is. I don't know everyone's story, and because Im not a baby momma, I don't know exactly what baby mommas go through. However, I do know that being a baby momma to a young boy who has nothing but the clothes on his back and living in his momma house is not cute. Personally, being a teenage mother in any situation isn't cute to me. I support both of my teenage baby mommas because every teen mother needs support. But I will always wish that both of them could have waited. Although most girls try to make teenage motherhood look peachy and easy, from looking at my sister who was a teen mom, my bestfriend/ 1st baby momma, and my soon to be baby momma its not. You can also see this from just looking at the stats of the teen moms on facebook. You cant possibly think their life is peachy if you read in between the lines. Just as I stated, they go through situation 1 & 2 on a weekly basis. That just cant be life. You can not look at that and tell me that their life seems like roses. I think its best to live out your teenage years (14-20) and your early 20's (21-24) without a baby. I know these years for me are the time to party and do as I please. Its the time to better yourself by going to school or getting a job. This is the time to be selfish and do for you. Why make it hard for you by bringing a child into the world & possibly becoming a single parent? 

Word of Advice: Use Protection Or Get On Birth Control If You Are Being Sexually Active 

Day 2- 10 Years From Now...?!?!

Some people live their lives regretting and trying to fix their past. Some live just for the present because they are firm believers in "Tomorrow Is Not Promised." While all that is good for some, it isn't good for me. I live my life to better my future. So today's blog post is dedicated to where I see myself in 10 years.
10 Years 4rm Now...
1) I will be 29 years old...knocking on 30 (whew!)
2) At this point in my life I plan to be an undergraduate of Bates College with a bachelor's degree in possibly American Cultural Studies & 2 minors in Education and African American Studies
3) I hope to have a graduates degree in Education & working somewhere within the Public School system
4) I dont know where I will be living but more than likely it would be in the Midwest close to Chicago
5) Possibly married with at least one baby or a baby on the way/ Engaged (no kids b4 marriage)
6) In my own crib...if not a condo, working towards one

I have many more goals but these are the main ones...

Day 1- And He Was Everything I Said Never 2

 Ok so the 1st day blog is dedicated to my current relationship status. I am currently happily taken and Im loving most of the days as being Mrz. Jerome Wordlaw. 

We have been an established couple since May 14, 2010...my prom night. Before this day we were just "Boo Boo"s who flirted with each other but neva once thought twice about being with each other. He was not somebody that I thought I would see myself being with, let alone giving him a second of my day. He was everything that I was against and that I vowed to NEVER date...but now I learned never say never.

Before the end of senior year and before Jerome, I was determined never to give a drug dealer the time of day...especially if he was off the Ave. I said to myself that I wouldn't date any boy shorter than or the same height as me. I professed that I would neva date anyone younger than me or my age...only older men. ALL these standards were changed and thrown out the window when I decided to give my babes a chance.

We go throw our ups and downs & lately its been a hard time of down times. However, through it all we stick together and I believe were going to make. Sometimes I question myself why Im with him. I listen to my friends and family who all try to tell me I can do better. I know I can but I rather do him. I rather give him the chance to be better for me. I cant just give up on him because if I do, I would feel as if we wasted both of our times. I know he loves me & wants to be with me...we just have to let everyone else know it.

All & All, through all the drama of both our lives, through our ups & down, our Ins & Outs....I love this boy with all my soul. It feels good to be & love...I wish for the best as we continue to walk & see how this goes 

This Is how Im going to start off...

day 1 - your current relationship, if single discuss how single life is.
day 2 - where you’d like to be in 10 years.
day 3 - your views on drugs and alcohol.
day 4 - your views on religion.
day 5 - a time you thought about ending your own life.
day 6 - write 30 interesting facts about yourself.
day 7 - your zodiac sign and if you think it fits your personality.
day 8 - a moment you felt the most satisfied with your life.
day 9 - how you hope your future will be like.
day 10 - discuss your first love and first kiss.
day 11 - put your ipod on shuffle and write 10 songs that pop up.
day 12 - bullet your whole day.
day 13 - somewhere you’d like to move or visit.
day 14 - your earliest memory.
day 15 - your favourite tumblrs.
day 16 - your views on mainstream music.
day 17 - your highs and lows of this past year.
day 18 - your beliefs.
day 19 - disrespecting your parents.
day 20 - how important you think education is.
day 21 - one of your favorite shows.
day 22 - how have you changed in the past 2 years?
day 23 - give pictures of 5 guys who are famous who you find attractive.
day 24 - your favourite movie and what it’s about.
day 25 - someone who fascinates you and why.
day 26 - what kind of person attracts you.
day 27 - a problem that you have had.
day 28 - something that you miss.
day 29 - goals for the next 30 days.
day 30 - your highs and lows of this month

So Im New 2 This Blogging Business

My inspiration for this blog came from my 5th Grade bestie Kishelle & her sister Pippi LongStockings lol (& my sista). These two women's lives inspire me in so many ways its crazy. I love them & Glad that God graced my life with there being

....Ok but on to why I created this blog. This is my place to vent...& when I say vent I mean it. No you wont figure out my entire life story from my blog, but you will get some of my inner thoughts and opinions on situations. I will talk mostly about my crazy family who I love more than my life itself, my boyfriend who I have a Love/Hate relationship with at time, my 2 God Babies :)...the joy of being a God Mother is beyond explanation, and my wonderful bestfriends...with out them I dnt know where my sanity would be.

....Well Welcome 2 Kelley's World! **ENJOY**